“If a train doesn’t stop at your station, then it isn’t your train.” ~ Marianne Williamson
How many times have you fretted over what didn’t happen for you? That relationship that you so wanted to work. That job that you just KNEW was going to be the answer to your prayers. That dream house that you bid on but then lost because someone came in with a higher bid. The account for which you were competing. The dog at the shelter that you so desperately wanted but when you went back, he was gone. And on and on it can go.
The bottom line is: If it doesn’t happen for you, it just wasn’t meant to be. It’s as simple as that. No use spending time questioning why or how or beating yourself up that you didn’t do all you could’ve to make it happen. The could’ve, should’ve, would’ve’s can really wreak havoc on your peace of mind.
Wouldn’t it be so much easier – and healthier– if you simply accepted that it just didn’t work out? And be at peace with the fact that it wasn’t your train…
But what if you’re the kind of person that doesn’t take no for an answer? You fight and manipulate and try to bend things in your favor. Here’s what Marianne Williamson goes on to say about that train:
“Don’t try to flag down the conductor and convince them to stop there, even if their own map says that they should just keep going. You may not realize it, but there’s another train trying to come toward you, unable to get into your station because a train that doesn’t even belong there is being delayed there by your intensity.”
Chill out. Be secure in the knowledge that your train is on its way. The one that just passed and didn’t stop for you: it wasn’t yours. But your train WILL come. Know that.
Have you chased trains? Have you desperately tried to change outcomes? If so, did you ever find that you should’ve left well-enough alone?