A Powerful Quote about Destiny

A quote by Jean de La Fontaine:

 “A person often meets his destiny on the road he took to avoid it.”

photo credit: James Darren Hicks

photo credit: James Darren Hicks


Wow. I heard this quote the other day and it whacked me with its powerful truth. I have always believed that our destiny is already planned out for us. Not to say that we can’t alter the course and choose just how we arrive at that destination but no matter how we get there and no matter when we end up there, it is where we were always meant to be.

Some folks think destiny and fate are different. I don’t. But it made me look deeper into the definitions of both.

Destiny: what happens in the future: the things that someone or something will experience in the future; a power that is believed to control what happens in the future; a predetermined course of events often held to be an irresistible power

Fate: a power that is believed to control what happens in the future;the things that will happen to a person or thing; the future that someone or something will have; the will or principle or determining cause by which things in general are believed to come to be as they are or events to happen as they do: Destiny

So you see, destiny or fate, either term can be used.  I look at my own life and all that’s happened to me. It hasn’t all been good, that’s for sure. Some of the really bad times and the really bad people that came into my life were all supposed to be there, I’m convinced. For example, in one situation, I met a person who destroyed my life for a while. When I look back on how we met, I realize it was orchestrated by unseen forces. I was in a building I had never been in and really had no need to ever be in but for this one appointment. He was sitting on a bench when I walked by, our eyes met and we shared a flirty smile. And I continued on my way. But then, the person I had the appointment with was running late and his office was locked up, the class that this guy was in let out early because the professor didn’t show up and it just so happened to be right next to the closed office where I was standing, waiting. He came out and there I was. My fate was sealed in that very moment. And the lessons I was to learn were really big ones, like the TRUST YOUR GUT lessons, and they would only come to me after the destruction.

I had looked back years after and realized that something told me, when he asked for my number, a little gnawing in my gut said there was something not quite right, something was off with this guy. But since I couldn’t put my finger on it, I dismissed it. And I believe I was supposed to dismiss it, for it was after this situation ended that I had the realization that my gut instinct was to be trusted next time. (And I have trusted my gut ever since). And looking back, when our involvement started, there were so many signs, so many obvious signs that I completely overlooked. I saw all the signs but I was blind to them. Only later did I see them as red flashing lights.

Rubble by Caleb Roenigk

Rubble by Caleb Roenigk

Out of the rubble came one of life’s really important lessons. After all, trusting your instinct is necessary for survival.

I’ve had people come into my life that were only in it for a short time. People who I thought were going to be life-long friends but some of those associations ended because of me. More lessons learned. Yes, I believe these people were supposed to come into my life specifically so I could learn and grow to become a better person, because it was due to my own shortcomings that the friendship ended. In one case it was an overreaction and anger that caused the demise of that friendship. It was entirely my fault and it was a bitter pill to swallow because I had valued that specific friendship and I paid the price of losing it. A very valuable lesson resulted and one that, thankfully, I won’t have to learn again.

There will be other lessons for me to learn, for sure. And some of them will inevitably be painful. That is by design. Jean de Lu Fontaine’s quote speaks to just that.

 “A person often meets his destiny on the road he took to avoid it.”

In my example of the lesson that taught me about my instinctual powers: I could have chosen not to give that guy my number and thus never developed a relationship with him, true. But someone or something else would have come along to teach me the lesson that I was supposed to learn about my gut.

The friendship that I ruined might not have occurred had I not met this person in the first place. However, I was still supposed to learn that lesson so it would have been someone else in a different place and different time perhaps, and that valuable lesson would indeed have been taught regardless.

Destiny is Home

Destiny is Home

Our life is a big blueprint of lesson plans. It is a maze of choices and opportunities but all the paths lead to the same outcome: our destiny.

Do you believe Jean de Lu Fontaine’s quote?

S is for Soul Purpose

This Journey is Yours Alone

We all have a destiny. We all are in this life working to fulfill our soul’s purpose. Perhaps we’re just getting started. Perhaps we failed –or didn’t quite make it—in our previous lives. If we listen closely and pay attention, our soul’s purpose will be revealed to us. We will feel a calling, a tug that pulls us in a direction that might seem to be veering us off a current course or path. When we resist, the tug is strong and persistent. That’s when we have to heed the call and start following the direction in which our soul is pulling us.

It is with deep certainty that I believe my soul’s purpose and my calling is to be an animal chaplain. I am choosing to devote my life to the animals and the people who love them because of how I feel when I experience this:

I have looked into the eyes of many animals

So what is your soul’s purpose? How have you come to know it?

Please share here in the comment section


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Q is for Que Sera, Sera

QQue Sera, Sera. Whatever will be, will be. This Spanish saying was made into a song, written by songwriting team Jay Livingston and Ray Evans, and later made wildly popular when Doris Day sang it in the 1956 Alfred Hitchcock classic “The Man Who Knew Too Much.” The song won an Academy Award for Best Original Song and went on to become Doris Day’s signature song. I remember hearing it when I was young and asking my mom what it meant. It stuck with me then, as it sticks with me today.

Whatever will be, will be. I believe that. I believe in predetermination. I believe our fate is predestined, that our soul has a purpose and we live our lives, albeit unconsciously for a great bit of it, working to achieve that purpose, even with our free-will fully operational.

I believe that if it is supposed to be, then it will be. “If it’s meant to be, it will be” is a saying I often heard growing up when faced with some of life’s anxious moments, the yet unknowns, the disappointments and my own failures. It was something that was supposed to make me feel better about situations and outcomes, especially when I was nervous or displeased. And, truth be told, it actually did help lessen the sting and ease the pain if disappointment or heartbreak was the end result.

I believe in a Higher Purpose and that there is a reason for everything. I trust there is no such thing as coincidence. I accept that things happen for a reason, that people come into our lives for a reason –some for a lifetime, some for just a season, some for mere moments– and that every action has been orchestrated through the urging and guiding of our angels.

Even so, I do believe that we have free will and free choice. If and when our angels try to sway or persuade us one way or another, we still have the freedom to make the ultimate choice. It is at those pivotal forks in the road where we exercise our free-will ability to achieve, or not achieve, that right path for our soul purpose. This is where I think past lives come into play. If we happen to choose a path other than the one that has been ultimately planned for us, we play out the consequences of that decision until another time in another life, when we are once again presented with the opportunity to choose our right road. And this goes on and on throughout our multitudes of lifetimes until we get it right.

What helps us navigate this lifetime is our intuition. Our gut instinct, that strong urging that pulls us one way over another, is, I believe, our angels whispering to us the right direction.

Mihaly von Zichy painting

Angel Whispering to an Odalisque by Mihaly von Zichy (1827-1906)

It’s when we happen to go against that gut instinct and make a bad decision that we learn for the next time… IF, that is, we open ourselves up, IF we open our hearts and our minds to the possibility (in my case, the probability) of predestination, then our future actions will be carried out with more careful consideration as we will have (hopefully) learned to listen to our intuition and trust our destiny.

Que Sera, Sera: if nothing else, its meaning sure helps us endure life’s big tragedies and little disappointments along the way.

What about you? What do you believe? Do you believe in fate?

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