V is for Voices in My Head

VV is for Voices in My Head: MAKE THEM STOP!!!

We all have them: those voices that constantly criticize us and cause us to self-deprecate with all kinds of negative self-talk. The voices in our heads that shape our self-image and often just downright irritate the shit out of us.

Last week we were coming from Lowe’s (my favorite store) having just bought a truckload of mulch, and Brian pulled into the Valero station so he could run in and get us some pop. I sat there in the truck, nit-picking myself in the side-view mirror. You know the drill: “Geez, I’m gonna need a facelift pretty soon!” and “Fuck man, where did these wrinkles come from?” Yada yada.

Brian comes out and is standing next to the window talking to me when he suddenly says, “You look good in this truck.”

And then he walked around the back of the truck, got in and pulled out. Down the road a minute or so later, I said “Thanks for what you said back there. I had just been sittin’ here looking at myself in the mirror and pulling my skin up to see how much better I’d look with a facelift…”

funny facelift photo

And he interrupted and said, “Damn Michele. Do you ever LISTEN to yourself?” He always catches me. And he lets me know it. But then immediately that girl in my head said, “Yeah, but he loves you. That’s why he sees you that way.”

I just looked at him for a long moment and smiled. Yep, that’s when I decided. I need to strangle that bitch in my head who keeps talkin’ shit to me. Move over Sista. Make room for some positive voices…

                                                 (Stephen Lynch – Voices in My Head)

Copyright © 2014 Michele Truhlik. All Rights Reserved.

 

Let’s Get This Conversation Started: My article published today in the Good Men Project!

I am thrilled to be a contributing writer to the fabulous online magazine, the Good Men Project. It’s a subject that is close to my heart: the body image issues that come from being fat in America (and around the globe) and how those body image issues affect both women and men. Please give it a read and let me know what you think. I’m beyond excited to get this conversation started!

The Best & Worst of F Words: How Being Called FAT Fucks with Men As Much As It Does Women

 

old masters painting

Venus at a Mirror by Peter Paul Rubens, c1615

Nude Woman in a Red Armchair by Pablo Picasso (1932)

Nude Woman in a Red Armchair by Pablo Picasso (1932)

 

http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/best-worst-f-words-jnord/

 

F is for …

FThe Best and the Worst of F Words

One of my favorite words begin with F. I’m sure you know which one I’m talking about. That crude four-letter word, to me, is an important communication tool. It’s a word I use when I want to place great emphasis on something that I’m saying. It’s also very effective when used in the passionate throes of hot steamy sex.

On the other hand, one of the ugliest F words is FAT. I hate that word! In our thin-obsessed society, the word has grown to be one that can throw a woman (or a man) into a downward spiral of crash dieting, eating disorders, body dysmorphia and even into a full-blown state of depression. It’s a bad word, fat.

Another F word that I have come to hate is FACE. Let me just state this on behalf of all the beautiful fat women in the world: The worst compliment you can give us is to say, “You have such a pretty face.” If I hear that one more time I’m going to scream and not stop screaming. God, it makes me crazy!

Why is this compliment so bothersome and so very uncool? Because if you are complimenting a thin woman, you say, “You’re so pretty” or “You’re beautiful.” But when you compliment a plus-size woman, you say “You have such a pretty face,” “You have a beautiful face.”

Do you know what that tells us? It tells us that although our face is pretty, the rest of us is garbage, and that everything below our necks is worthless. In other words, you’re telling us that 95 percent of our physical being is horrid. That’s exactly what it says to us. To use another F word, it’s so fucking insulting!

I do believe that most people who use that compliment are coming from a place of love and they don’t even realize the implications their phraseology has on the one being complimented. But, please, from now on, consider your words before you tell a fat woman that she’s beautiful. Don’t pinpoint her face. Just say, “You’re beautiful.” Period. Because that’s what we are.

With that being said, I’m going to do something very foreign and unfamiliar to me. After years of growing up fat in America and decades of self-image and body image issues, I’m going to be brave here and finally, for the first time in my life, I’m going to claim my beauty. And I’m only doing this for me:

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Sensational and Stunning Time-Lapse Video of Yosemite National Park!

This should absolutely be shared with everyone you know! What an incredible journey through beautiful Yosemite National Park. Two photographers, Colin Delehanty and Sheldon Neill, both from California, spent ten months backpacking over 200 miles in Yosemite with one goal in mind: to create this astounding 5-minute time-lapse video capturing the park in all four seasons.

The video quality is fantastic, the editing is incredible, the music score is a perfect match for what you see and it is just a fabulous way to start your Sunday! Enjoy. This is a major WOW. Spread the beauty!

Stunning Time-Lapse Video Captures Rare Views of Yosemite

national geographic yosemite national park photo