Lost & Found Blogfest and Battle of the Bands combo: K is for Kiss

Today is a special edition of Battle of the Bands because I’m combining it with the Lost & Found Valentine’s Edition blogfest, hosted by Arlee BirdGuilie CastilloElizabeth Seckman,Yolanda ReneeDenise Covey, and Alex J Cavanaugh. The blogfest is about love lost or love found. I’ve chosen to reprise a piece I wrote a few years ago during the A-Z Blogging Challenge. It’s a perfect piece for this blogfest and since it didn’t get much readership the last time, maybe this time will be different. Following this will be my Battle of the Bands, which ties in nicely to my piece.

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I wrote this about a mistake I made a few years ago. It’s titled “K is for Kiss”:

How I used to long for your kiss. Your soft lips knew how to speak to my body. Your kiss ignited my soul and set my heart ablaze. kissWe fell in love, though we knew we shouldn’t. All the hours and days and nights spent together turned the heat up on our love, especially those nights in front of the fireplace, the sultry sounds of Motown playing in the background and our love smoldering in the hot embers of our passion.

We knew this couldn’t last, but we were in too deep. The more time we spent together, the harder it got to be apart. We were hooked. And it was so amazing. It scared the shit out of both of us because no way could this last. It was too good to be true.

pencil sketch: You're the Best by Naleme

“You’re the Best” by Naleme (c2012-2014)

You used to joke when we’d be out somewhere that people could see us together and know immediately that we weren’t married because we were so happy! That was probably a true statement. We were, after all, living a fantasy. But God, it was an incredible whirlwind. 

And then reality hit. Like an unanticipated tornado. I’ll never forget that night. You paged me, I pulled over to use a pay phone on the side of a downtown street. It was misting rain but I didn’t care. I dialed and you picked up the phone. I think you started the conversation with “I’m sorry” and I knew. I felt a pit in my stomach. My hands were shaking. And as if on cue, the rain started to pound harder, just like my heart.


You said you had tried, but when you told them you were leaving, your kids cried and begged you to stay. And you said you owed it to them to stay. You had to at least try to make your marriage work.

“So this is it?” I asked.


I started to cry. I could hear the anguish in your voice. I know you heard the devastation in mine. The rain poured on me and I don’t know which was coming down harder, it or my tears. Alone in the Rain gif (http://i514.photobucket.com/albums/t350/anthonymuthu2008/AloneinteRain.gif) I stood at the phone booth, crying into the phone, while raindrops splattered down around me, just like my world at that moment. I heard you softly say, “I’m sorry” and then you gently placed the phone down on the receiver. I stood there holding the phone to my ear, the rain washing the salty tears from my face, listening to pellets of water pinging off the metal booth and the stinging sound of the dial tone as the finality sunk in. It was almost cinematic, that scene.

I heard you broke your sobriety after that night. And for that I’m so very sorry. I’m sorry for all of it. What a horrible path we chose to walk together, the whole torrid affair. Five lives crushed. I pray for forgiveness in one breath and yet in another I’m remembering that first time. I know it’s you who calls me and hangs up sometimes. I can tell by how gently the phone hangs up. It’s okay. I think of you too. Maybe in another life.

A few legitimate relationships later and I’ve found that I’m much happier alone. I decided I actually hate being in love. Love fucks with my head too much. It messes with my peace of mind. And that is something I simply can’t tolerate anymore. No way. Peace and freedom – they’re everything to me now.

Although I miss your amazing kiss, the ones I get now are of a whole other kind…and they’re ones that keep me sane. These kisses are way better for me. My heart has never been more full. I guess God forgave me after all.  

dog giving a kiss

-A kiss from Cleo  (me & Cleo 2013)

Copyright © 2014 Michele Truhlik. All Rights Reserved.

Now for my Battle of the Bands:



The Song: (If Loving You is Wrong) I Don’t Want to Be Right:

This song was written by Stax Records songwriters Homer Banks, Carl Hampton and Raymond Jackson. It has been performed by many singers, most notably by Luther Ingram, whose version topped the R&B chart for four weeks and rose to number three on the Billboard Hot 100 chart in 1972.

The song is about an adulterous love affair, told from the point of view of either the mistress or the cheating spouse, depending on the gender of the performer. Regardless, both parties involved express their desire to maintain the affair, while at the same time acknowledging that the relationship is morally wrong.

Although it was first recorded by The Emotions and Veda Brown, those recordings were never released. Besides Luther Ingram, other notable singers to cover it include Isaac Hayes, Rod Stewart, Percy Sledge, Bobby “Blue” Bland, Barbara Mandrell, David Ruffin, LeAnn Rimes Renée Geyer, Ramsey Lewis, reggae singer Alton Ellis, Tom Jones, Cassandra Wilson, Nathan Cavaleri and Rania Zeriri. (Source: Wikipedia)



For today’s battle, I chose to pit LeAnn Rimes against Rod Stewart. Which one do you like better and why?

Contender #1:  LeAnn Rimes:


Contender #2:  Rod Stewart:


Time to vote! Tell me which version you like and why you chose that version. And when you’re done voting, please visit these other BOTB participants and check out their cool battles. Be sure to visit the other Lost & Found Valentine’s Edition Blogfest participants too! The list is below the BOTB participants.

Here is a link to the Linky list of Lost & Found Valentine’s Edition Blogfest participants. Please take a moment to visit their posts as well:

72 thoughts on “Lost & Found Blogfest and Battle of the Bands combo: K is for Kiss

  1. I definitely have to go with Rod Stewart on this one. He’s just got such a great voice. I forgot how good he is. I’m sorry you went through such a rough loss of love but I think your picture shows…you came through with one handsome (fluffy) and way better love!!

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  2. Hi, Michele!

    I broke away from family matters to experience your BOTB and I’m so glad I didn’t miss it. This is one sensational post! Your story certainly is like a scene from a movie. I’m feelin’ it! It reminds me of times when I was unfaithful. Dang – why is the rush so intense when you are cheating and know that it’s wrong? I also appreciate your related song selection. It brings to mind two other songs about infidelity, “Slip Away” by Clarence Carter, and “Me and Mrs. Jones” by Billy Paul. I well remember Luther’s version of “If Loving You Is Wrong.” I enjoyed LeAnn’s cover, but not as much as the one by the Rodster. I owned his album Foot Loose & Fancy Free and this was one of my favorite tracks. “If Loving You Is Wrong” has special meaning for me because it is linked to memories of a four year relationship with a woman that began when I was still married to Mrs. Shady #1. I remember many nights snuggling by the fire with my new love interest while we listened to “If Loving You Is Wrong.” For the second time today, I cast my vote for Rod Stewart.

    I agree with you, Michele. Nothing beats a dog’s sloppy wet kiss on your cheek – nothing.

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    • Thanks so much Shady! I’m glad you liked my post! I’m glad it had meaning for you. Ah, memories… Right? 🙂 And there is definitely something alluring about that rush!
      Oh, Slip Away is such a great song! I’m listening to it right now. What a classic! Me & Mrs. Jones is another awesome song. Thanks for bringing those up.
      And thanks for your vote: I’ll put you down for Rod Stewart. I’m torn as to how I’m going to vote…
      Hey, I appreciate you breaking away from the family obligations to hang with me at my blog here today! Much appreciated…
      Talk soon


  3. Maybe you’ve found a calling in romance writing. That was a well told story though a tragic one. Some mistakes can seem so wonderful while we are making them. They can change us in mighty big ways.

    Great song. I went ahead and listened to Rod Stewart’s version even though I decided that LeAnn Rimes couldn’t be beat on her version. That intro to Rod’s version drew me in though. He does an excellent job with the song, but still I prefer LeeAnn’s vocals and the playing is so crisp and soulful.

    Give my vote to LeeAnn Rimes.

    Thanks for joining in with the Lost & Found blog hop. It tied in well with BOTB didn’t it.

    Arlee Bird
    A to Z Challenge Co-host
    Tossing It Out

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    • It did! It was perfect tie-in, the BOTB and the bloghop.
      Ya know, I never gave romance writing a thought. Thanks for planting that seed…
      Yes, some mistakes can be so amazing while we’re making them…

      Thanks for your vote. I’ll put you down for LeAnn.

      This is an awesomely fun bloghop! Thanks for hosting…


  4. Excellent battle! I’m going with LeAnn Rimes; as much as I love Mr. Stewart, she won this one for me… More upbeat but somehow also more intense in transmitting that sense of being torn (yeah, been there). And your K is for Kiss piece is beautiful, Michele. Thank you for republishing it for the Lost & Found hop… The passion and the pain come through loud and clear 🙂
    Guilie @ Quiet Laughter

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    • Thank you so much Guilie. What a nice compliment! I so appreciate that.

      This bloghop is so fun! Thanks for hosting.

      And thanks for your vote: I’ll put you down for LeAnn…


  5. Oh my goodness. Your writing is beautiful and haunting! I’m so touched! I, too, had a lover. We both had spouses. And yet we longed to be with each other. Barbara Mandrel’s version of this song was popular at the time of our affair. I am so sorry yours ended the way it did! My man left his wife (no kids) and I left my husband (took two kids with me) and we became one. For the next 38 years of my life this man was my soul mate. Don’t give up on LOVE! Your soulmate is out there somewhere.
    My vote goes to Leann Rimes. I love a woman’s version of this song for reasons stated above. I had never heard anyone else sing it but Barbara. Wow Luther did give it justice! And who doesn’t love Rod. I love for Leann however.

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    • Paula, thank you so much for your kind words about my writing! I so appreciate that. So glad that you were moved by my piece. That means a lot to me.
      Wow, you have an unusual ending to an affair: you’re very lucky that it turned out the way it did. I’m glad you found your soulmate. You have 38 years of memories to keep you going…

      It is interesting to listen to this song from both perspectives, male and female, isn’t it? Thanks for your vote: I’ll put you down for LeAnn.

      Thanks again for stopping by. And for sharing your story… XOXO


  6. Michele, I really enjoyed and, sympathized with your post. I could feel that rain, and the pain you longed for it to cover. Well written piece.

    For the battle I had to go with Rod Stewart. I loved the instrumental backing him.

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    • Thanks Dixie! I appreciate your compliment so much!

      Thanks for your vote: I have you down for Rod. He does such a good job with the song…


    • Thanks Yolanda. Thanks for your thought…but I have to say, I really am okay being alone. I’m actually quite grateful for it, for a number of reasons. 🙂

      Thanks for your vote too. I’ll put you down for LeAnn. I still don’t know how I’m going to vote because I like both these versions but I’m leaning toward LeAnn…

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  7. Your story is beautifully written but very very sad from every perspective.

    You BATTLE is a ‘no brainer’ for me. LeAnn’s voice just does not lend itself to this song in my ears. Give my vote to Rod, love the instrumentation in his version, especially the intro.

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    • Thank you so much Fae. I so appreciate your comment and compliment.
      And I have you down for Rod. His is a good version for sure…


  8. Michele, oooo, your story is fabulous! Fiction or not, it’s some kind of great writing and so perfect with your song tie-in. My hat is off to you, lady! You matched up two great artists. Leann does a good job feeling the words through her cover, but Rod’s husky vocals and slow approach with singing his cover made me feel his pain more. So, I’m giving my vote to Rod! Nicely done!!

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    • Thanks Cathy! I really appreciate your compliments! I wish it were fiction! It did indeed happen just that way…
      I’m glad you liked my cover versions. I know I’m going back and forth on who to vote for. I lean one way and then I lean the other… But I have you down for Rod. Thanks for your vote…and again, for your kind words. XOXO

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  9. Wow, what a story. I appreciate you sharing. I’m currently single, for the most part, not by choice. My wife left me too, possibly for another person, though she won’t admit it. It can be tough to deal with at times. Of course, that’s all of 10 years ago, so it’s way in the past now. Besides, blogging keeps me distracted. Which is probably why I love it so much.
    BOTB – I have to give my vote to Leann Rimes. It works well for me. Rod is a great singer but I don’t think this song of his was much to my liking.

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    • But aren’t you happy now, being single? There’s a lot to be said for being single, I think…
      Thanks for stopping by Jeffrey. I’ll put you down for LeAnn. 🙂


  10. I love that picture of you. YES. You found a different love. But as you said to me unconditional. I thoroughly enjoyed your story. And I am so sorry about that sad situation. K Is For Kiss is but a memory now. Your fur baby will keep you happy and busy. Thanks for writing it. I’d say that it helped to write about it. That’s what they say anyway. I’d be willing to bet they lost him anyway.

    I have to go with Rod Stewart. He has such a powerful set of vocal chords. Thanks for the visit.

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    • Hey Robin. I would venture a bet that you are right about that. Thanks so much for your comment! I’m glad you enjoyed my piece. And yep, writing always helps!
      Thanks for your vote: I’ve got you down for Rod…


  11. Doesn’t it seem as if nature always obliges a heartache with a show of her own majesty? Compelling atmosphere; I felt as if I was in the phone booth.
    Though it’s quite a stretch to imitate Luther, and I truly assumed Leann would torch it up just right, my vote goes to Rod Stewart for his signature rasp;-)

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    • I love your line Diedre: “Doesn’t it seem as if nature always obliges a heartache with a show of her own majesty?” — Wow! And YES!!! Thanks so much for your comment!
      And I have your vote cast for Rod. Thanks for stopping by…


  12. This was beautifully written because there is no wrong or right…it just is. I love the non-judgemental way you wrote this and can feel the passion and the pain. Great song and, although LeAnn Rimes has a powerful voice, I did care for the styling of the song with that basic beat. I really liked Rod Stewart’s version. His voice is perfect for this song and I love the way the music is done much better so he gets my vote

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    • Hey Birgit. Thanks so much for your comment and compliment. I really appreciate it. And I have your vote cast for Rod… Thanks for stopping by!


  13. Wow. What a sad story. My mom told me that she heard this while she was still (unhappily) married to my dad: What a shame to be married to the wrong one when the right one comes along. It made her see that she was just biding time in a relationship that died a long time ago. And she didn’t want to meet the right one while still married. So, she approached my dad about divorce and he readily agreed. And that was it.

    I wish your fellow had recognized his own unhappiness within his marriage and tried to fix it (thereby not involving you in his life) or gotten out (so that he was free to be with you when you met). Alas, it didn’t work out that way and it sounds like everyone was hurt.

    As for the battle, I preferred LeAnn Rimes.

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    • That sure would’ve been the best way to handle that. But in the end, it probably wouldn’t have worked for us anyway, in hindsight. Funny thing, after all that heartache…
      Thanks for your vote: I have you down for LeAnn. Thanks for stopping by and sharing your story. I’m glad your mom did it the way she did. That was smart…and moral.


    • Hi Michelle. Thanks for your compliment. I so appreciate it. Sadly, it was completely authentic. A very heartbreaking time in my life. So glad you liked the rain scene. It happened just like that. I’ll never forget standing at the phone booth that night. It was almost like I was outside of myself watching the whole thing unfold — and crash and burn. Thanks so much for your comment!


    • Thanks JoJo. Unfortunately it was autobiographical. Completely. It was a sad time for sure. But it’s all better now. 🙂 Thank you for your compliment. I really appreciate that.


  14. The trouble with trouble is that often it is a lot fun at the beginning. We would choose more wisely if we could only see the end of the path before we begin it.

    Arlee is right: you have a real gift for telling an evocative story. Thanks for dropping by my blog and staying to chat. 🙂

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    • Oo, true words there! If we could only see the end, we sure would choose differently in so many instances, huh?
      Hey, thanks for the compliment. I appreciate that! Thanks for stopping by!


  15. First off, you did an absolutely masterful job choosing just the right song to highlight your story. The combination of the two makes for one terrific post.

    Your story is beautifully written, and oh so sad.

    The BOTB is a tough one. I like both versions, but have to vote for Rod. That raspy voice gets me every time.

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    • Thank you Susan! I really appreciate your comment. I’m glad you enjoyed my post. Thank you for saying so.
      Rod’s raspy voice gets so many…and makes me swoon! 🙂 I’ve got your vote cast for Rod Stewart. Thanks for stopping by! Hope to see you again…


    • Thanks so much! Yep, I sure did come out of that a better person for sure. Lots of bitter lessons learned that year… 🙂 Thanks for stopping by!


    • Thanks Donna. I appreciate your comment! And you said it right: Love can be so twisted!
      I agree with you regarding LeAnn. Thanks for your vote!


  16. Hi Again,

    I just found a way to play for BOB. I also see I left my comment on the wrong article. Sorry about that.

    So for the BOB, I vote for Rod Stewart’s version. It is heavenly. I didn’t know that he had recorded this title. I like the arrangement.


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    • Hey Patricia, I’ll go find your other comment now. Thanks for leaving one! I’m glad you played BOTB with us! I’ve got your vote down for Rod Stewart. Thanks for stopping by…


  17. Howdy, MICHELE ~
    Normally, I’m not really a Rod Stewart fan at all, but in this instance, he actually wins my vote. I feel his more plaintive approach better captured the meaning of the song.

    ~ D-FensDogG
    ‘Loyal American Underground’


    • Thanks Stephen. Rod is definitely stacking up the votes but so is LeAnn. I haven’t even counted yet but I think this is going to be a close battle. Much better than the last one, that’s for sure! 🙂
      Thanks for stopping by…


    • Love your comment Elizabeth!! You’re so right. I’m definitely sticking with the puppies. And they are indeed angels on earth. After all, Dog spelled backward is God. I don’t think that is a coincidence… I’ve always said, communing with dogs is the closest one can get to God because it is there where you will find pure and absolute unconditional love.
      Thanks so much for stopping by…


    • I agree! Luther’s version is fabulous! Thanks for voting. I’ll put you down for Rod Stewart… Thanks for stopping by!


  18. Even at my advanced age (lol), I still wonder why I like Rod Stewarts voice so much – but I do! Put me down as A VOTE FOR ROD!

    Nice battle! 😉


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