“Forgiveness is selective forgetting.” ~ A Course in Miracles
This might be the best definition of forgiveness that I’ve seen. Indeed it seems to work for me; if I completely remove the incident/infraction from my mind, I seem to be able to forgive. In the past I’ve found myself saying “I can forgive you but I will never forget”…but in reality that doesn’t seem to hold true. For as long as I remembered the incident, it stayed with me and I couldn’t ever seem to move past it and into forgiveness.
As I’ve gotten older, I find that I don’t hold grudges like I used to. At least not for small things. If I can move past something that has angered or hurt me, if I can put it out of my mind, then I find that I can more easily move into a realm of true forgiveness. A Course in Miracles just may have hit it right on with this quote.
For most of my life, I’ve always had a hard time with forgiveness; that is until I reached middle age. Now things just didn’t seem to carry as much weight as they once did. I move past things much more quickly now. How about you? Can you forgive easily? Do you believe that forgiveness is selective forgetting?What helps you to truly forgive?